How to Turn Your Triggers into Teachers
Discover how to transform your triggers into powerful tools for self-growth. Learn a simple formula to identify, understand, and reframe your triggers, enhancing your emotional resilience and self-awareness.
Imagine I told you that I don't like your pink hair, when you clearly do not have pink hair. It wouldn't bother you, right? It would be easy to brush off because it's just not true. My comment simply wouldn't resonate with you. But if I commented on a deep insecurity of yours, you might feel upset, angry, disappointed, etc., and understandably so!
Here's the thing:
Triggers often point to something deeper within us. Maybe it highlights a core value of yours, like fairness or respect. Or perhaps it highlights an insecurity you're working on, like a desire for more recognition or a fear of judgment.
a formula to follow:
Here is a formula you can follow to move through your trigger:
Step 1: Notice
The first step is to identify what sets you off. Pay attention to situations, words, or even tones of voice that make you react. Maybe it's a colleague taking credit for your work, or a family member making a critical comment. Keep a mental note, or even write them down in a journal.
Step 2: Uncover
Once you recognize a trigger, approach it with curiosity, not judgment. Ask yourself a gentle question: “What might this situation be trying to teach me? What core value is being brought to light?" Maybe it's a sign you need to speak up for yourself at work, or to set clearer boundaries with family.
Step 3: Reframe
Can you change the meaning you assign to the trigger? Instead of feeling attacked, see it as an opportunity to understand yourself better. It's your inner voice trying to guide you towards something you value or need.
Remember you are not a victim to your triggers. You can use them to learn more about yourself, your core values, your needs, and your boundaries. If you feel triggered, take a deep breath (inhale for 4, hold for 7, exhale for 8). Then ask yourself: "What's this trigger trying to teach me here?" By understanding your triggers, you can unlock next-level self-awareness and emotional resilience. You've got this!
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