It’s possible to hold dualities within yourself — like craving both the quiet of a morning coffee and the energy of a dinner party, or valuing simplicity while desiring luxury. When you embrace both sides of yourself and live in alignment with your core values, you honor all the parts of who you are.

Let’s talk about a powerful truth

You can hold dualities within you.

You can love the grounding stillness of being barefoot in the grass and the fabulousness of getting a luxurious massage. You can crave quiet mornings with a cup of coffee and the energy of an elegant dinner party. You can value stillness and simplicity and be drawn to abundance and luxury.

Both are valid. Both can be true for you.

This topic — especially around duality in identity, core values, and desires — has been a recurring theme in my own life and with coaching clients lately. Many of us feel like we have to choose one side of ourselves or prioritize one value over another.

But, life isn't about “this or that” or “black and white” thinking. It's about the beautiful balance of both/and.

Often a reflection of Core Values

Dualities are often a reflection of your core values. They show you what truly matters to you and how you can honor the many intricate layers of who you are.

For example:

You might value freedom, which shows up as both spontaneous solo travel and financial security.
You might value beauty, which is reflected in appreciating nature and curating an aesthetically pleasing home.
You might value growth, which comes from introspective journaling and making an impact through volunteering.

When you live in alignment with your core values, you'll see how your seemingly contrasting desires are actually working together to support the life you desire.

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If this resonates, I encourage you to dive deeper into your values this week. My Core Values Workbook is an amazing tool to help you clarify what truly matters to you, so you can begin embracing all sides of yourself with more confidence and self-trust.

JOURNALING PROMPT TO EXPLORE

What are two desires in your life that seem complete opposites?
What core values do they both reflect?
How can you honor both without feeling conflicted?

rEMEMBER: yOU ARE NOT ONE-DIMENSIONAL

By honoring all parts of yourself, you're creating a life that feels how abundant, aligned, and whole.

Here's to embodying your values, embracing your desires, and living your “both/and” life to the fullest!

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Embracing Both/And: How to Live in Balance with Your Core Values