What Fertility Treatments Have Taught Me
Discover how a simple shift in perspective can transform how you approach challenging seasons of life. Learn about the "I get to" mindset and how it can help you find gratitude and resilience in difficult situations.
What if there was a simple shift in perspective that could transform how you approach challenging seasons of life?
ENTER THE “I GET TO” MINDSET
The "I get to" mindset is a powerful tool for finding gratitude even in the most trying parts of life.
Think about it:
Instead of feeling like you have to face a challenge, think of it as something you get to do. For example, you get to develop your resilience, you get to learn something valuable about yourself, or you get to find a solution.
Let me share a personal story…
I've been undergoing fertility treatments after more than three years of trying to start our family. I'll be honest with you when I say it's been an extremely challenging and painful journey — on so many levels. IYKYK.
The reoccurring pregnancy losses, the synthetic hormones, the long needles, the endless doctor's appointments — it can all feel overwhelming for me at times. And while I honor that truth, I also have made a decision to embrace an abundant "I get to" mindset instead of allowing my victim mindset to take control.
i get to…
I get to pursue fertility treatments to start our family.
I get to use medicine to help me create life.
I get to learn more about the female body.
I get to have access to incredible doctors.
I get to connect with other people in their season of waiting
And sooo many more.
it’s a journey
Even on the tough days, I remind myself of how blessed I am to be on this journey (even if it’s not the fertility journey I would want for myself or wish upon anyone). And I'll be the first to admit that I'm not perfect at maintaining this “I get to” mindset — especially whenever we get heart-breaking news — but I try to practice it daily.
So, whether you're navigating fertility challenges like me or dealing with a difficult work project, I want to invite you to see adversity as an inevitable part of the human experience and that you get to choose how you respond to these challenges.
let’s put this into practice
Start by identifying areas of your life where you tend to feel frustrated or resentful.
These might be tasks you dread, responsibilities you wish you didn't have, or challenges you're currently facing.
Once you've identified these areas, challenge yourself to reframe your thoughts using the "I get to" mindset.
here are some examples
Instead of feeling burdened by a difficult work project, focus on the opportunity to learn something new and showcase your skills to your boss. Remind yourself, “I get to learn something new today.”
When faced with financial struggles, focus on the lessons you get to learn about budgeting and managing resources effectively. Remind yourself, “I get to understand how to budget my finances better.”
If you're struggling with fertility issues, focus on having access to medical care and supportive loved ones who are there to help you through a very difficult journey. Remind yourself, “I get to go on this journey to start my family.”
it’s a powerful tool
The "I get to" mindset is a simple yet powerful tool for cultivating gratitude and finding strength in challenging situations. The next time you catch yourself feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, remember to pause, take a deep breath, and remind yourself of all the things you get to experience and overcome in this lifetime.
P.S. a love note For anyone in a season of waiting
If you find yourself in a season of waiting, please know that you're not alone, and I’m giving you a massive virtual hug. It’s easy to hide our pain on the outside, but many of us are struggling with the pain of this journey below the surface. So, if you're tired of waiting, feeling stuck, or wondering if your time will ever come to start your family, I see you. Please hold onto the belief that something beautiful is waiting for you on the other side — because it is. Keep moving forward, and trust that better days are ahead. That’s what I’m doing, so we’re in this together!
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